How to deal with a breakup

In my earlier twenties, I thought a breakup was only with the opposite sex. Then I quickly realized a breakup can be with anyone; a friend, partner, family and basically any relationship that is deemed significant. Sometimes it’s unfortunate and other times it’s for the best. Regardless, if it’s for the best or not, at some point we feel pain and sometimes we feel resentment towards the individual.

The first thing I learned, let it go! The faster you let go of a relationship that ended, the faster you will be free. Especially, if it was a toxic relationship.

Second, do not look back. We sometimes wonder what if, how come, and where did I go wrong? But sometimes life has a way of turning things upside down. You just need to keep in mind, no matter the circumstances life goes on. So don’t sweat it because God does not make mistakes, everything happens for a reason, do not fret because greatness is in your future.

Thirdly, some people come into our lives for a season. If you loved that person, of course, loosing that person will hurt and may be you will even feel like you cannot go on without them. Think of the breakup like this, you have to lose someone that’s not worth holding on to, so you can gain someone or something great. Sometimes there are people in our lives that are blocking our blessings. Once we let them go, our blessings will pour in. Great opportunities, great people and a wonderful life is in the near future for you.

“Do not fret beacause greatness is in your future”


Independence is real and every women should have it

Growning up, I always heard the word independence and how it’s important. But it was not until I hit my twenties, I realized how important it was for everyone to have their independence especially, women. In this era, more women have graduated from college and more women are in the work field. In fact, there are great women who are leaders around the world.

To all the women in your twenties that’s reading this, independence is real and you should strive to achieve a life that can support yourself. No one knows exactly what the future holds but there are a few things for sure that will happen and that’s struggles, heart-break, unemployment, and so many times that we as women become displaced. But your independence, (education, dreams, goals, a plan, career, and savings..ect) holds the key to how fast you will recover, of course I am referring to practical sistuations, that need real and practical solutions.

At the end of the day, you may define independence differently from what I have but there are certain similair goals and achievements that we all have to achieve, to gain independence.

Let me know in the comment section below, what are some of the valuable lessons you’ve learned over the years?

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  • Reply
    February 5, 2018 at 8:07 pm

    Great info! Will share will my cousin who is still in her 20s.

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      Marshalee McIntosh Jin
      February 7, 2018 at 11:34 am

      Hi Cleo,

      Thank you for sharing!!

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    February 7, 2018 at 8:50 am

    Yes to this!! Great post!

    • Reply
      Marshalee McIntosh Jin
      February 7, 2018 at 11:36 am

      Hi Kim,

      Thank you for stopping by and taking time out your day to read my post. Have a great week!

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